No one realizes that in most cases, communication between a boss and an employee rarely leads to improved relationships between them. Even when a boss praises their subordinate. However, relationships are what ensure good communication. No, I’m not talking about flattery or being overly familiar. No. But if a leader wants to be heard, they need to make it so that people listen to them. And not just listen with impatience, waiting for it to be over, but with attention and interest.
It turns out that every time communication leads not to the convergence of metadata, but rather to de-correlation Would a television be useful if the image deteriorated irreversibly every time it was turned on?
The problem is further exacerbated by the fact that the essence of communication between a boss and an employee often involves the boss conveying that they are lowering their expectations of the employee (possibly even for the sake of self-affirmation or to address their own complexes): “You can’t even solve the simplest task without me!” Moreover, even when giving praise: “Well done, I…I didn’t expect that from you at all.“Isn’t it interesting that if you keep telling a person they’re a camel, will they start to feel like an eagle? A good friend of mine compared me to a panda. And what did that lead to? New profile pictures 🙂”
People tend to exhibit the behavior that is expected of them.expectThis is an evolutionary trait. If people behaved unexpectedly towards one another, they wouldn’t be able to form communities. Here’s an example from my life. In school, in the third grade, I was often sick and fell behind in the curriculum. The teachers stopped expecting success from me and…believedI was seen as a dumb underachiever, even though I excelled in the first two years of school. And you know, I became and remained a poor student throughout school, which led to me being pushed into a vocational school in the 8th grade. However, I was lucky in that the vocational school (culinary school) was not a shameful exile for me, but a goal I was striving for—I wanted to become a chef. And… in vocational school, no one knew I was a poor student. I was perceived as an excellent student—I actively participated in class and asked teachers questions—after all, I was pursuing my dream! And you know, I was an excellent student. Later, I continued to excel not only in vocational school but also in both universities I attended. In fact, I remained an “excellent student” in life.
In conclusion, we have two factors that lead to the opposite effect in the communication between a subordinate and a supervisor: communication deteriorates, and the subordinate’s behavior also worsens, aligning with the supervisor’s expectations.
It’s not surprising that subordinates are irresponsible, passive, foolish, and unreliable. Their boss simply didn’t give them a chance to become or be different. Even if he wanted to, he couldn’t communicate that. Perhaps he didn’t even know how to build relationships. two-way communication Текст для перевода: ..