OOGWAY: My old friend, the panda will never fulfill his destiny, nor you yours, until you let go of the illusion of control.
SHIFU: Illusion?
OOGWAY: Yeah. Look at this tree, Shifu. I cannot make it blossom when it suits me, nor make it bear fruit before its time.
SHIFU: But there are things we can control. I can control when the fruit will fall. And I can control where to plant the seed. That is no illusion, Master.
OOGWAY: Ah, yes. But no matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple, or an orange… but you will get a peach.Kung Fu Panda
My daughter saw some clouds in the sky and got so upset that she wouldn’t be able to go to the beach. Half an hour later, the clouds cleared up, and we started getting ready to go, but she became upset again, to the point of tears. She’s 7 years old, so we can forgive her. She’s just learning how to live and how to plan. Living in a bubble of “wants” and “gets,” she is under the illusion of control. She gets upset when things don’t go as she planned. She thinks that if she has a plan, it will happen. At first, she planned to swim with her friends at the beach. Then she started planning to ride her bike, but external circumstances keep taking away the opportunities she has imagined.
But this is a seven-year-old child. Why do they behave exactly like that in business? also. It’s not just about the disappointment over unfulfilled plans. It’s about everything. It’s always going on. struggle In pursuit of some kind of perfection, the struggle is driven solely by the illusion of control. Everyone knows that the children of doctors are “over-treated,” while the children of teachers are “over-taught.” Both groups are well-versed in their respective fields and believe that “my child will always be healthy” or “I will use all my pedagogical skills on my child, and he will grow up to be perfect.”
However, parents who strive to raise a perfect child often end up raising a neurotic. It should be understood that there are no perfect people. Everyone is lazy, limited, immature, and prone to making mistakes. Nothing human is alien to them. And that is precisely why, at the same time, everyone has value and is capable of outstanding achievements if they are guided properly. Not led, but truly guided. Allow them to grow.
By the way:
In most elevators installed since the early 1990s, the “door close” button serves only a decorative function. Otis Elevator engineers confirmed this fact to the Wall Street Journal in 2003.
Some simple climate control systems in offices are equipped with basic thermostats, giving employees only the illusion of control. As a result, staff members are much less likely to bother the engineers.
In 2004, the New York Times reported that in New York City, out of 3,250 traffic lights, more than 2,500 had buttons that pedestrians could press, but which actually didn’t work. These traffic lights have long been controlled by computers based on the density of vehicle traffic.