Imagine you’re sitting in a lounge chair, relaxing at your summer house or a trendy resort. At that moment, an annoying fly starts bothering you. You try to shoo it away, but it keeps coming back. You get angry and feel unhappy. Freeze frame. So, the fly has annoyed you, right? Are you suffering because the fly keeps landing on your sun-kissed skin? No, you’re suffering because you’re getting angry at that fly.
Ask yourself a different question: does this insect have enough strength, intelligence, cunning, deceit, and so on, to make you angry? Your anger is within you. Your unhappiness is within you. Only you are the master of your emotions and the master of your attitude towards the events around you. If the events around you affect your emotional state, then you are a slave to those events. You are dependent on them.
Another example: You’re at a traffic light, the green light comes on, and the lady in front of you, adorned with every possible symbol—“high heel,” “teapot,” “killer,” “70”—can’t seem to get moving. If you think you’re suffering because of all the incompetent drivers on the road, then you are indeed suffering. And you will always suffer when you find yourself in such situations. However, in reality, it’s not you who ends up in these situations. Youyou create themAll stress originates in your mind. You and your thoughts are once again dependent on external events.
You need the opposite: for events to depend on you. A person is a being capable of seeing the future, and the feeling of having control over one’s future is a source of happiness. To manage something, you must not be dependent on it. Moreover, as soon as you stop depending on external circumstances, you immediately gain control over them.
All stress is caused by your thoughts, not by people or events. Understand this. Look for the reason for your unhappiness within yourself, in your attitude towards it, in your emotions that dominate you. Your skull is a reliable wall separating the external world from the internal one. Use it, or rather, understand that no matter how much the Wolf huffs and puffs at the stone house of Nuf-Nuf, the piglets have nothing to worry about, even though yes, the wolf is scary. 🙂
No one talks about the fact that you should not lack adequate ( not emotional ) reaction to external events. However, it should be a reaction that does notcalledevent, andwill lead to the desired resultFeel the difference.
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